first day of first grade

Just QUIT already!!!

• You can’t make money without selling something real. 
• You can’t make something real without first imagination manifesting itself in your head. 
• You can’t have imagination without surrendering yourself to an idea that you want to create something of value to other human beings.

And now it’s too late... or is it?

• I’m going to tell you why you have to quit your job. 
• Why you need to get the ideas moving. 
• Why you need to build a foundation for your life or soon you will have no roof.

1) The middle class is dead. 

He said, “look out the windows”. We looked out at all the office buildings around us. “What do you see?” he said. “I don’t know.” “They’re empty! All the cubicles are empty. The middle class is being hollowed out.” And I took a closer look. Entire floors were dark. Or there were floors with one or two cubicles but the rest empty. “It’s all outsourced or technology has taken over for the paper shufflers,” he said.  “Not all the news is bad,” he said. “More people entered the upper class than ever last year.” But, he said, more people are temp staffers than ever.And that’s the new paradigm. The middle class has died. The American Dream never really existed. It was a marketing scam.

And it was. The biggest provider of mortgages for the past 50 years, Fannie Mae, had as their slogan, “We make the American Dream come true.” It was just a marketing slogan all along.

2) You’ve been replaced.

Technology, outsourcing, a growing temp staffing industry, productivity efficiencies, have all replaced the middle class. The working class.  The country has been out of a recession since 2009. AT LEAST  Four years now. But the jobs have not come back. I asked many of these CEOS: did you just use that as an excuse to fire people, and they would wink and say, “let’s just leave it at that.”

I’m on the board of directors of a temp staffing company with $600 million in revenues. I can see it happening across every sector of the economy. Everyone is getting fired. Everyone is toilet paper now. Flush.

3) Corporations don’t like you.

“What’s the problem?” I said. “Don’t you want writers that are popular and well-respected?”  He said, “no, we want to be about the news. We don’t want anyone to be an individual star.”

4) Money is not happiness.

 A common question during my Twitter Q&A, asked at least once a week, is “should I take the job I like or should I take the job that pays more money”. I have never once seen anyone save the increase in their salary. In other words, don’t stay at the job for safe salary increases over time. That will never get you where you want – freedom from financial worry. Only free time, imagination, creativity, and an ability to disappear will help you deliver value that nobody ever delivered before in the history of mankind.

5) Count right now how many people can make a major decision that can ruin your life.

I don’t like it when one person can make or break me. A boss. A publisher. A TV producer. A buyer of my company. At any one point I’ve had to kiss ass to all of the above. I hate it. I will never do it again.

• The way to avoid this is to diversify the things you are working on so no one person or customer or boss or client can make a decision that could make you rich or destroy you or fulfill your life’s dreams or crush them. I understand it can’t happen in a day. 
• Start planning now how to create your own destiny instead of allowing people who don’t like you to control your destiny. 
• When you do this count, make sure the number comes to over 20. Then when you spin the wheel the odds are on your side that a winning number comes up.

6) Is your job satisfying your needs?

I will define “needs” the way I always do, via the four legs of what I call “the daily practice.” Are your physical needs, your emotional needs, your mental needs, and your spiritual needs being satisfied?

• The only time I’ve had a job that did was when I had to do little work so that I had time on the side to either write, or start a business, or have fun, or spend time with friends. The times when I haven’t is when I was working too hard, dealing with people I didn’t like, getting my creativity crushed over and over, and so on. 
• When you are in those situations you need to plot out your exit strategy.
• Your life is a house. Abundance is the roof. But the foundation and the plumbing need to be in there first or the roof will fall down, the house will be unlivable. 
• You create the foundation by following the Daily Practice. I say this not because I am selling anything but because it worked for me every time my roof caved in. .

7) Your Retirement Plan is For Shit.

•  I don’t care how much you set aside for your 401k. It’s over. The whole myth of savings is gone. Inflation will carve out the bulk of your 401k. The only retirement plan is to Choose Yourself. To start a business or a platform or a lifestyle where you can put big chunks of money away. 

Some people can say, “well, I’m just not an entrepreneur .”

This is not true. Everyone is an entrepreneur. The only skills you need to be an entrepreneur: an ability to fail, an ability to have ideas, to sell those ideas, to execute on those ideas, and to be persistent so even as you fail you learn and move onto the next adventure. Or be an entrepreneur at work. An “entre-ployee”. Take control of who you report to, what you do, what you create. 

Or start a business on the side. Deliver some value, any value, to any body, to somebody, and watch that value compound into a career.

What is your other choice? To stay at a job where the boss is trying to keep you down, will eventually replace you, will pay you only enough for you to survive, will rotate between compliments and insults so you stay like a fish caught on the bait as he reels you in. Is that your best other choice? You and I have the same 24 hours each day. Is that how you will spend yours?

8) Excuses. “I’m too old”. “I’m not creative.” “I need the insurance.” “I have to raise my kids”. I was at a party once. A stunningly beautiful woman came up to me and said, “James, how are you!?”

WHAT? Who are you?

I said, “hey! I’m doing well.” But I had no idea who I was talking to. Why would this woman be talking to me? I was too ugly. It took me a few minutes of fake conversation to figure out who she was.

It turns out she was the frumpish-looking woman who had been fired six months earlier from the job we were at. She had cried as she packed up her cubicle when she was fired. She was out of shape, she looked about 30 years older than she was, and now her life was going to go from bad to worse. Until…she realized that she was out of the zoo. In the George Lucas movie, THX-1138 (the name of the main character was “THX-1138″) everyone’s choices are removed and they all live underground because above ground is “radioactive”. Finally THX decides better to die above ground than suffer forever underground where he wasn’t allowed to love. 

He wasn’t free.

He makes his way above ground, evading all the guards and police. And when he gets there, it’s sunny, everyone above ground is beautiful, and they are waiting for him with open arms and kisses. The excuse “but it’s radioactive out there!” was just there to keep him down.

“This is easy for you to say,” people say to me. “Some of us HAVE to do this!” The now-beautiful woman had to do it also. “What are you doing now?” I asked her. “Oh, you know,” she said. “Consulting.” But some people say, “I can’t just go out there and consult. What does that even mean?”

And to that I answer, “Ok, I agree with you.” Who am I to argue? If 
someone insists they need to be in prison even though the door is unlocked then I am not going to argue. They are free to stay in prison.

9) Its ok to take baby steps. “I can’t just QUIT!” people say. “I have bills 
to pay”. I get it. Nobody is saying quit today. Before a human being runs a marathon they learn to crawl, then take baby steps, then walk, then run. Then exercise every day and stay healthy. Then run a marathon. Heck, what am I even talking about? I can’t run more than two miles without collapsing in agony. I am a wimp.

Make the list right now. Every dream. I want to be a bestselling author. I want to reduce my material needs. I want to have freedom from many of the worries that I have succumbed to all my life. I want to be healthy. I want to help all of the people around me or the people who come into my life. I want everything I do to be a source of help to people. I want to only be around people I love, people who love me. I want to have time for myself.

THESE ARE NOT GOALS. These are themes. Every day, what do I need to do to practice those themes? It starts the moment I wake up: “who can I help today?” I ask the darkness when I open my eyes. “Who would you have me help today?” I’m a secret agent and I’m waiting for my mission. Ready to receive. This is how you take baby steps. This is how eventually you run towards freedom.

10) Abundance will never come from your job. Only stepping out of 
the prison imposed on you from your factory will allow you to achieve abundance. You can’t see it now. It’s hard to see the gardens when you are locked in jail. Abundance only comes when you are moving along your themes. When you are truly enhancing the lives of the people around you.

When every day you wake up with that motive of enhancement. Enhance your family, your friends, your colleagues, your clients, potential customers, readers, people who you don’t even know yet but you would like to know. Become a beacon of enhancement and then when the night is gray, all of the boats will move towards you, bringing their bountiful riches.

Don’t believe me. Stay with a boss that hates you. A job that is keeping you locked on a chain around your neck, tantalizing you with incremental increases in pay and job title. Stay in a culture that is quietly replacing the entire middle class. This is not anyone’s fault. This is the tectonic plates of economics destroying an entire suburban culture that has lasted for almost 100 years.

Until you choose yourself for success, and all that choice entails, you will be locked into the prison. You will stare into your lover’s eyes looking for a sign that he or she loves you back. But slowly the lights will fade, the warmth of another body will grow cold, and you will go to sleep dreamless in the dark once again.

  

Link to the original article!!

Quit! Just quit your job now!!!

it’s too late... or is it?

I’m going to tell you why you have to quit your job. 

Why you need to get the ideas moving. 

Why you need to build a foundation for your life or soon you will have no roof.

1) The middle class is dead. 

He said, “look out the windows”. We looked out at all the office buildings around us. “What do you see?” he said. “I don’t know.” “They’re empty! All the cubicles are empty. The middle class is being hollowed out.” And I took a closer look. Entire floors were dark. Or there were floors with one or two cubicles but the rest empty. “It’s all outsourced or technology has taken over for the paper shufflers,” he said.  “Not all the news is bad,” he said. “More people entered the upper class than ever last year.” But, he said, more people are temp staffers than ever.And that’s the new paradigm. The middle class has died. The American Dream never really existed. It was a marketing scam.

And it was. The biggest provider of mortgages for the past 50 years, Fannie Mae, had as their slogan, “We make the American Dream come true.” It was just a marketing slogan all along.

2) You’ve been replaced.

Technology, outsourcing, a growing temp staffing industry, productivity efficiencies, have all replaced the middle class. The working class.  The country has been out of a recession since 2009. AT LEAST  Four years now. But the jobs have not come back. I asked many of these CEOS: did you just use that as an excuse to fire people, and they would wink and say, “let’s just leave it at that.”

I’m on the board of directors of a temp staffing company with $600 million in revenues. I can see it happening across every sector of the economy. Everyone is getting fired. Everyone is toilet paper now. Flush.

3) Corporations don’t like you.

“What’s the problem?” I said. “Don’t you want writers that are popular and well-respected?”  He said, “no, we want to be about the news. We don’t want anyone to be an individual star.”

4) Money is not happiness.

 A common question during my Twitter Q&A, asked at least once a week, is “should I take the job I like or should I take the job that pays more money”. I have never once seen anyone save the increase in their salary. In other words, don’t stay at the job for safe salary increases over time. That will never get you where you want – freedom from financial worry. Only free time, imagination, creativity, and an ability to disappear will help you deliver value that nobody ever delivered before in the history of mankind.

5) Count right now how many people can make a major decision that can ruin your life.

I don’t like it when one person can make or break me. A boss. A publisher. A TV producer. A buyer of my company. At any one point I’ve had to kiss ass to all of the above. I hate it. I will never do it again.

The way to avoid this is to diversify the things you are working on so no one person or customer or boss or client can make a decision that could make you rich or destroy you or fulfill your life’s dreams or crush them. I understand it can’t happen in a day. 

Start planning now how to create your own destiny instead of allowing people who don’t like you to control your destiny. 

When you do this count, make sure the number comes to over 20. Then when you spin the wheel the odds are on your side that a winning number comes up.

6) Is your job satisfying your needs?

I will define “needs” the way I always do, via the four legs of what I call “the daily practice.” Are your physical needs, your emotional needs, your mental needs, and your spiritual needs being satisfied?

The only time I’ve had a job that did was when I had to do little work so that I had time on the side to either write, or start a business, or have fun, or spend time with friends. 

The times when I haven’t is when I was working too hard, dealing with people I didn’t like, getting my creativity crushed over and over, and so on. 

When you are in those situations you need to plot out your exit strategy.

Your life is a house. Abundance is the roof. But the foundation and the plumbing need to be in there first or the roof will fall down, the house will be unlivable. 

You create the foundation by following the Daily Practice.

7) Your Retirement Plan is For Shit.

 I don’t care how much you set aside for your 401k. It’s over. The whole myth of savings is gone. Inflation will carve out the bulk of your 401k. 

The only retirement plan is to Choose Yourself. 

To start a business or a platform or a lifestyle where you can put big chunks of money away. Some people can say, “well, I’m just not an entrepreneur .”

This is not true. Everyone is an entrepreneur. The only skills you need:

an ability to fail

an ability to have ideas

to sell those ideas

to execute on those ideas

to be persistent so even as you fail you learn and move onto the next adventure

Or be an entrepreneur at work. An “entre-ployee”. Take control of who you report to, what you do, what you create. 

Or start a business on the side. Deliver some value, any value, to any body, to somebody, and watch that value compound into a career.

What is your other choice? To stay at a job where the boss is trying to keep you down, will eventually replace you, will pay you only enough for you to survive, will rotate between compliments and insults so you stay like a fish caught on the bait as he reels you in. Is that your best other choice? You and I have the same 24 hours each day. Is that how you will spend yours?

8) Excuses. 

“I’m too old”. “I’m not creative.” “I need the insurance.” “I have to raise my kids”.

“This is easy for you to say,” people say to me. “Some of us HAVE to do this!” The now-beautiful woman had to do it also. “What are you doing now?” I asked her. “Oh, you know,” she said. “Consulting.”

9) Its ok to take baby steps. 

“I can’t just QUIT!” people say. “I have bills to pay”. I get it. Nobody is saying quit today. Before a human being runs a marathon they learn to crawl, then take baby steps, then walk, then run. Then exercise every day and stay healthy. Then run a marathon.

Make the list right now. Every dream. I want to be a bestselling author. I want to reduce my material needs. I want to have freedom from many of the worries that I have succumbed to all my life. I want to be healthy. I want to help all of the people around me or the people who come into my life. I want everything I do to be a source of help to people. I want to only be around people I love, people who love me. I want to have time for myself.

THESE ARE NOT GOALS. These are themes. Every day, what do I need to do to practice those themes? It starts the moment I wake up: “who can I help today?” I ask the darkness when I open my eyes. “Who would you have me help today?” I’m a secret agent and I’m waiting for my mission. Ready to receive. This is how you take baby steps. This is how eventually you run towards freedom.

10) Abundance will never come from your job. 

Only stepping out of the prison imposed on you from your factory will allow you to achieve abundance. Abundance only comes when you are moving along your themes. When you are truly enhancing the lives of the people around you.

When every day you wake up with that motive of enhancement. Enhance your family, your friends, your colleagues, your clients, potential customers, readers, people who you don’t even know yet but you would like to know. Become a beacon of enhancement and then when the night is gray, all of the boats will move towards you, bringing their bountiful riches.

Don’t believe me... Stay with a boss that hates you. A job that is keeping you locked on a chain around your neck, tantalizing you with incremental increases in pay and job title. Stay in a culture that is quietly replacing the entire middle class. This is not anyone’s fault. This is the tectonic plates of economics destroying an entire suburban culture that has lasted for almost 100 years.

Until you choose yourself for success, and all that choice entails, you will be locked into the prison. You will stare into your lover’s eyes looking for a sign that he or she loves you back. But slowly the lights will fade, the warmth of another body will grow cold, and you will go to sleep dreamless in the dark once again.

 

Link to the original article!!

http://jamesaltucher.quora.com/10-Reasons-Why-You-Have-to-Quit-Your-Job-This-Year?ref=fb

my kitchen!! found it!!

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Lord keep me... please

i think that i am losing me
i don't know when this happened
but i cant find me anywhere
i see glimpses of me and at times i remember the fun i had in myself
but... where did i go
i don't like his adult life
it is not the freedom i thought i would have
i am also alone
i thought being alone would be much more fulfilling than it is
i was wrong... or maybe... i am just old now
i do not have a boy friend or husband
the man with whom i am trying to cultivate a relationship just doesn't have a clue
i need to give up on him, but i am lonely
and... i need to tell him the truth
i don't want to be around someone who doesn't understand me
i have emotions that are simple and complicated
i live being alone... just not lonely

i don't like my job because it feels like they are trying to fire everyone... but pretend that they care about  something else
i don't want to go somewhere they don't want me
i don't like people feeling like they did me a favor by allowing them to work
i believe that GOD gave  me my job
God will decide what i will do for employment
God... i need you more than ever
take all of my i wants and make me for like you
i want to want what you want
i want to go where you want me to go
I am unfulfilled in my life...
HELP!!!! I am sad!!!

My Grandmothers...

My grandmothers... in hindsight, of course, were two of the strongest women that i will ever meet... and looking at my life now i feel that this will remain forever true... They were the backbone and neck bones of the family for both my mother and father.

My mothers' mother Grace Delores Jones... did not take mess off of NOBODY!!! Living in Miami but originally from Bainbridge, GA she was a force to be reckoned with!! She raised her children as a married women and as a single mother. She did NOT play. She demanded respect from EVERYONE no matter the language or nationality and she loved me. She loved me with a tender love that I knew was just for me and I do miss her. After her death, my mothers family has not been the same. We do not meet or get together at all, because there is nowhere to go...Grandma's house and Grandma's food is gone... My daughter may never see what our family used to look like... we were more than strangers in the night... we were together.

My father's mother Mary L. Nora Smith (Nelson) was also a strong woman. She was the church secretary and cooked what seemed to be a never ending buffet of food. The weekends were always full of food, laughter and gospel music. Again, laughter was everywhere and love too. She was always giving to someone something they might need or just plain needed. She had fruit trees in the back yard that she alway gave some fruit to someone... and i mean bags and bags of fruit. She was able to remain married to her husband because... she loved him... duh!! After she passed, another death occured in the family, the death of the get together. There is nowhere to go to be a family together. I miss my family...

I don't have a house... but when I do get one... Im inviting everyone over or east allowing everyone to come by if they want to drop by to come to my house for fun, food and MOST importantly fellowship. My grandma's house is how i got to know all of my cousins and aunts and uncles and anyone else i am related to... if we don't change this... our true family will disappear.

Good Morning HS!!

well... i actually woke up a little early this morning with Lauryn Hills' song in my head... "what you want might make you cry and what you need my pass you by if you don't catch it"... i started thinking about my life and about two people in particular... the one who i thought i wanted, who is gone... and i appreciate their departure... the other is about someone who really just slipped through the cracks... ididn't  really realize that they could have been the one for me until just now... and that is a trip thinking about that... i just don't have anymore time to be sad about a person who is gone and who will never be... I must strive toward the future... Lord keep me day by day... in a pure and perfect way... I want to live, I want to live OOO in a building not made by hands... I love you grandmas and cant wait to see you all again in glory.

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